If I could coach people on a few top tips, this one would be at the top, it really would. Why? How how much time do you spend either verbally or mentally or whining about your life? How much time would you free up, and you would then have the mental time and energy to achieve so much of your goals – that if truth be told you say ‘if only I had time’.
This is true for a lot of us. I can give you an example today. My partner overheard a conversation in a coffee shop that was being orchestrated by our GP – yes ‘our’ GP. Who sat for twenty minutes whining about her life to her very concerned friends – twenty minutes! This may well be the reason she is consistently running late for her appointments but that is not why I am telling you about her. Why I am telling you is that it happens to us all. We all get stuck in habits that do not support us. This is not just for those who may, on the outside, look successful and are high ‘achievers’. We all do it, young, old, ‘successful’ man, woman and well… beasts!
My question and suggestion today is where are you stuck in a habit of whining about life? In your head or verbally… what are you whining about? What is it going to take for you to stop and take responsibility and realise that it is no fun listening to it, it does not help, and it will not get better for whining. There I said it.
If you must do it, please do it consciously. By this I mean, if you really want to moan, label it so and give yourself five minutes to get it up and out. Once you start to do this you will enjoy it much more and you will also start to laugh at yourself more. Once you are conscious of a whining patttern it will be so much more fun to do it.
So, two choices. Unconscious whining or conscious whining – what do you want it to be?
Have a great day!